🌻Releasing My Father’s Name🌻

🌻Changing my name. 🌻

This past week has been healing,confronting and challenging in so many ways.

After returning home, I learned more of the abuse and violence that my mother endured with my father, by her own written account.

While I have wanted to change my name many times, because of all that is attached to it, the violence, the unpredictability, the unwanted recognition from his peers and followers etc I didn’t want to stir the pot.

After getting clearer understanding, I have made the decision to renounce my last name KhanBey. I do not desire to carry the name of a man that willfully and intentionally caused violence and harm to my mother.

I do not desire to pass this name on to my children. I do not desire my work to be associated with his legacy. I do not desire to be apart of his story in those ways anymore.

I proclaim that the name KhanBey has died with my father, S. KhanBey. You all will see me adjusting my social media profile, my work, my book cover and so forth over the next few months. I am preparing to change both our respective maiden names to Webb the name of my Grandfather.

For spiritual confirmation I found mom’s diploma from Howard University which she appropriately had herself listed with the last name Webb.

As we move forward in my professional spaces I do ask that in fellowship, learning and introductions en lieu of “Rashida KhanBey Miller” I ask that you call me /name me Temptress (she/her) .

And so it is.

As you are signing up for classes and dropping into your personal practice I encourage you to also intentionally name yourself. What name do you want to bring into the space that is free from all the other expectations, rules and obstacles in the world?
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See you on the dance floor,

Temptress